So....uh....we went to lunch once, right? And, um, I gave her my Yahoo ID so she could contact me if she's got computer problems. Well...I don't remember telling her that she should contact me if she's got personal issues. *sigh*
Now I get IM's like this "My mother had surgery on her shoulder last night so I have to take care of her& the house tonight and this "I still have the headache that I went to UMC's ER Wednesday and to CMMC's ER on Friday night." She's also called me once or twice to complain/share about her job and to tell me that her 2nd ex-husband wouldn't take her phone calls. Gee?!? I wonder why...loon.
I like my life to remain drama free for the most part, and this is infringing on my non-dramaness. So, uh, Dear Reader, how does one extricate oneself from this situation without hurting someone's feelings?
You're trying to be too nice. Niceness will only mislead and confuse her. Just tell her that the "voices" in your head are taking over again and you can't make time for her and "them". If that doesn't scare her away, take out a restraining order because she really is a loon.
Posted at November 30, 2004 02:15 PMGir, hahaha!
Poor Howard. I don't have an advice for ya, but I'm sorry you found a girl with so many probs. I mean, we've all got probs, but that's a pretty basic mistake to dump all that stuff on someone you're newly intereted in.
Tell her you can't hang out because you have to wash your hair. It worked for Marsha Brady, why can't it work for you?
Posted at November 30, 2004 03:21 PMI have one word and that is RUN
Posted at November 30, 2004 03:26 PMHoward, mark this day down on your calendar as I'm about to reply with serious advice. The thing about telling someone that you aren't interested/don't want to hear their problems/etc etc is that there isn't a way to not hurt their feelings.
Posted at November 30, 2004 06:12 PMSo hurt her feelings!! Damn!! You are not into her and to my point of view you need to say "Sayonara!" So tell her. "We are not a match."
Next time interview your luncheon/dinner companion more closely either through email or on the telephone and see if you even want to have lunch/dinner with her.
Remember, in your interviewing you need to determine if you want to spend time with your beloved dogs or her!!
Gir: That is awesome!
C: That's actually a great way to drive someone off...mention Doctors (plural).
Deb: I'm no Marcia Brady. :-(
sm: I can run, but I can't hide.
h: The calendar has been marked...and you are absolutely right.
Azalea: I'm working on a questionnaire that I'm going to submit to possible dates. And in this case, I choose dogs.
Posted at November 30, 2004 09:30 PMPut her on your block list in IM and get caller ID. Then you can just ignore her rather than tell her to fuck off :-)
Posted at December 1, 2004 12:32 PMChez-Some needy women (and men) will resort to borrowing the phones of others and using other IM names to get around blocking.
Posted at December 1, 2004 03:18 PMHoward, just tell her that it is too soon after your divorce for you to get involved in anything that isn't just purely physical, that you don't have the emotional energy to give her what she needs. Lay it on your ex, in other words, while still leaving the door open to some guilt-free sex if she is inclined.
Posted at December 2, 2004 07:45 AM