October 29, 2004


You know something? I don’t think I’m going to be good at this relationship stuff. I wasn’t good at it way back when and I find myself not being good at it now.

I fine myself attracted to people I can’t have either because of distance, or past experience, or being out of their league, or just being friends for a long time. I make bad choices when it comes to this stuff and sometimes try and force the issue, which only leads to me feeling empty and alone. I develop the crush, and then envision the romance, the need, the want, but I don’t take time to envision the obstacles. I figure you can overcome anything if you want to, but I know that it’s just not practical sometimes. You can’t sustain a relationship on email, phone calls, and occasional visits. I had someone very wise tell me that, and even though I didn’t really want to believe it, I knew it was true.

Another reason I won’t be good at this is, well…I don’t like the person who looks back at me in the mirror. He’s too fat, his face is too round, he’s too hairy, and yet he has no motivation to change any of it. Sure, he’ll get ready to change, but he just never follows through. And no, this is not new, but it’s gotten worse lately. There is a lot of planning, and buying, and wishing for change, but he just can’t find the proper change agent. High blood pressure, high cholesterol, several months of visits to chiropractors, and none of it seems to be a motivating factor. The face in the mirror swears he’s not going to end up like his Mother; alone, overweight, and depressed, but he’s sure not doing anything to change it. Until he learns to like himself, he can’t and doesn’t expect any else to like him.

I know this is not the kind of stuff you’ve come to expect at 3leggeddog, but this is the only place I can get it off my chest. This is my support system. I can say the things that are rolling around in my head, keeping me up at night. Sometimes feeling sorry for yourself feels really, really good. It’s when you start to like the feeling that things can get out of hand. Don’t worry, Dear Reader, I’m not going off the deep end any time soon. I’ve just had a tough week, caused someone I care about some pain, and now I’m handling it the way that I’ve come to enjoy. Writing it out. It’s cathartic and that’s just what I need. It’s gotten too damn expensive to drive around for hours listening to music so instead I fire up the browser and put words down for others to read. I’m not going to proofread this like I normally do. It’s become a stream of consciousness thing with Maroon 5 playing in the background and proofreading just seems wrong.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to take my “feeling sorry for myself” cd, pop it into the truck’s cd player, and burn a tank of gas. Yeah, it’s been one of those weeks and writing alone ain’t gonna cut it.


bigger then big hugs sent your way.

Posted at October 29, 2004 04:49 PM

I like it when you're honest.

Posted at October 30, 2004 12:00 PM

Thanks for sharing. Frequently I feel disgusted with myself as you so aptly described and I keep chugging along. Relationships can be tough stuff. I am better at friends than romance stuff so I have left that behind.
Love your sweeties and yourself!

Posted at October 30, 2004 04:01 PM

We are here for you and good for you for trusting us enough to share. Just don't give up on yourself. I agree that a good pity party can sometimes be a good motivator, definitely a catharsis.

Hang in there. Hugz.

Posted at October 31, 2004 07:04 AM

aww, 3ld: winkyshock inc will always have a special place for the only employee on the entire payroll to get the 'muppetism' joke.
now, get back to work.

Posted at October 31, 2004 11:59 PM

Listen and believe the voice inside of you
Live out your dreams and make them true
Remember that's how broken hearts heal
And happily ever afters just take time

Posted at November 1, 2004 10:52 PM

Been there. Done that. Could really use the truck.
Keep writing - I have to believe it really helps as well...

Posted at November 4, 2004 05:06 PM

Of course you know that I agree, relationships are hard! (except with dogs) I used my blog for support, and it worked well. There's nothing wrong with doing that.

Posted at November 5, 2004 04:09 PM

Been there. Sometimes, still there. Good luck climbing out. I think that you will do just fine.

Posted at November 9, 2004 01:47 PM